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Pickup Artist Phone Game: NoFlakes System |
21st July 2008, 09:26 |
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Managing Your Time when Meeting Women |
18th July 2008, 02:21 |
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Dating can be your best friend.
...OR your worst adversary.
Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there's that common phrase, "He thinks with his... You know."
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, but so do women.
In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"
Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my life."
It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."
I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.
Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.
It's not TRUE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.
Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.
There's another societal factor going on, that I call the "doofus dad" syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.
This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are "better."
If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.
But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.
When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.
After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.
Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.
This make my girlfriends can't get enough of me - and I don't GIVE THEM "enough."
Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.
The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.
Just be real with her - don't spend more time that you want. no need of games.
Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.
Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to take up in another newsletter.
It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and then they are left out ALONE.
You should think that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.
Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can "keep" her.
I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you're willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.
It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.
You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.
If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.
That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.
And no, we don't intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.
Vin
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Dating Tips: Attracting a "10 |
14th July 2008, 06:07 |
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If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a 10, then I think you'll find this letter very interesting.
But first off, let go waaay back...
When I was in high school, there was this girl in my class who was perfect.
She was intelligent, cool, and so beautiful that it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't stop my eyes looking)...
She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.
We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).
I wanted to ask her to senior prom so badly...but I chickened out at the last minute.
It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.
I've talked to a lot of guys and this experience seems pretty common, there was this ONE SPECIAL GIRL who you crushed on from afar, or you missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart...
Ah, the unreachable "10," a perfect woman that every men dream but seems hard to attain.
I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.
Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your "perfect girl."
First of all, the concept of a "10" is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more "valuable" just because she looks nicer than other women.
The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only true "10".
Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10's, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.
Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.
Why?
Because almost all men do that.
The girl knows what you are about and she sees you as a shallow guy.
But there definitely are certain women that seem on another "level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.
You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.
Like I said, you shouldn't treat them "differently."
Let me clarify.
You shouldn't treat a woman BETTER than the other women. But there are things that you need to know.
First, she is sick of guys chasing her for her looks alone.
She wants to be appreciated for her personality more than anything else.
Now for your own sake I'm going to give you a heads up.
There are two types of "10's."
Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.
The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10's. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't EARN that attention.
In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.
It may sounds not good but I call it like it is.
These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back.
Anything.
(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)
Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of the elite - early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.
These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.
Usually HSE 10's are intellegent, have good attitudes, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.
Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).
And here's another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?
It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet another man who is on their level.
But here's the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.
The Attraction Code is about being the best man you can be, being a "male 10."
You will notice an interesting thing if you start to apply the Attraction Code.
You'll get odd responses from less attractive women - they will occasionally be rude to you because they know they're not on your level - it's what I call the Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.
But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their "level."
She thinks to herself, "finally, a guy who can hang with me; he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car."
The Attraction Code[url][/url] is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you'll also enjoy plenty of "adventures" with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.
There are bunch of 10's out there waiting for you.
Don't spend another year missing something that you could've been enjoying right now.
Vin |
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Facts about Storytelling |
8th July 2008, 03:31 |
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This newsletter is the Part I of the Storytelling.
To start with.. Let's defined what is storytelling and why is it important?
Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about it, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story. Storytelling is powerful when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.
And once you used it correctly, you can make your desirability with women sky rocket.
If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)
So, I'm here to give you tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) But before that, I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.
Myth one: Is my story have to be true and should it be about me?
That is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if it is clearly known that your story isn't true, as long as you kept it fun, people will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not telling you to lie because I know that the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion. However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)
One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
The way you tell the story can be though the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language and you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat (plus adding things that can be interested) what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.
Myth Two: When you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
There is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with scripted stories as much as you can in starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen. This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:
*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This problem is common among guys. At first they were great, then as they go on with the conversation slowly it dies and there it produce an awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.
*Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the main reasons why I'd like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you can have a chance to convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.
What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."
*Those thing that you normally couldn't say can be brought out through storytelling.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Make a list from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel have changed or defined who you are.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
If you have a funny story then that can be humorous if you share it to others then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise 2: Write at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Now save those list, we are going to use that in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.
See you on the part II of this newsletter and great ready to really take storytelling to the next level. |
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Useful Mindsets in Dealing with Male Competition |
25th June 2008, 03:55 |
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Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is
talking to another guy?
Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with
them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you
avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.
There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with
women who were with other guys.
They think that the woman is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.
This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially
in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other
people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being,
not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever
she chooses.
Approaching oftenly a woman who is "with" a guy can make you
look more confident, and draw out the jealous side of the
guy, making him look insecure and weak.
The second reason why guys don't approach woman who is
"with" a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple
misconception.
Guys assumed that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or
somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be
threatened by other men.
This comes from an ancient survival strategy that had been
fixed into human brain.
The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious,
and it's hard to tell who the more "dominant" person is in
any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.
He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.
So it's smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead
or exiled from the tribe.
And then their genes were taken out of the "game" so to
speak.
Usually the one that can lived long enough to survive and
reproduce are those guys that played it safe and avoided
confrontation.
The irony is that most of approach anxiety nowadays have the
basis on this hard-wired survival strategy - the false
assumptions of the guys will lead them to unnecessarily
avoid women.
Here is the thing, mostly when you see a girl talking to
another guy in the club or bar, she's not WITH him.
They JUST MET!
I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman
thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some
random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend
or relative.
I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a
woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having
missed so many opportunities. Which brings me to my first
point:
DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE WOMAN.
Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are.
Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off
chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure
jealous type and start a physical confrontation.
So use your brain - just don't be stagnant in making a false
assumptions.
Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the
other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.
The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.
But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every
man with a source of income can survive on his own - if
you're reading this, you probably have access to food and
shelter. You're all set.
Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the
physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.
Attacking another person will always end you up defeated
because the police always win.
You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you
are thinking about it.
Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk
to???
I recall all the girls I missed out on because I was afraid
about some DUDE. And it makes me mad remembering that and
knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!
You are going to look back on all the things you did and
didn't do, when the time comes that you're on your deathbed.
How painful it is to say "I haven't approached that girl
because I was scared of another guy," or "I could have
enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have
approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy."
I don't want you to be like that.
So let's analyze it deeply. You truly don't understand
dominance if you are seeing the other guy as more dominant.
You see, if you're concerned with who is more dominant you
instantly make yourself NOT dominant. There's a better
focus.
Dominant men don't think about who is dominant. To be
dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.
So you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Instead
of worrying about whether or not he's more dominant than
you, focus on the girls.
It's proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge
other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn't even know the
guy - they just meet him.
Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely
the rest know him.
It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating -
normally they will bring a guy that is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.
And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means
he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.
When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.
Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything.
And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR
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How to Make Meeting Women Fun and Easy |
17th June 2008, 09:54 |
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Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?
And how does it feel that despite of all the effort you're doing you're still not getting an inch closer to your goal?
If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ ON.
Honestly, going for a date can be quite frustrating.
You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.
You think everything is going great with a girl and she stops returning your calls.
Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have to do everything to move things forward.
In your approach, you have to have the courage.
At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to set a date.
Men are much higher than women when it comes to the standards of behavior.
(Don't get me started on that...let's just say women are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")
It can be pretty exhausting, especially if you're not "extroverted" by nature.
... I have often heard a complain about "extroversion fatigue" from a client of mine.
I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to struggle with it before.
Before I began to teach myself pickup, I would go out, and be mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.
I would take a break and rest!
I am working hard than I was in my full time job instead of having some fun and relax in those situation. Now you see how strange it is.
I would go home absolutely dead
... from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!
That things makes any sense???
As a whole, there is a general dating fatigue. Having a discouraging results, an emotional ups and downs with regards to the hard work and effort that I make just to have a girl to hang out with me or to sleep with me.
It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!
When I first got in this game, I literally had to force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)
But what can I say, I was passionate about learning all this stuff (and not to mention extremely eager for results after years of sexual frustration).
I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym.
I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.
If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.
There are three reasons for this.
Socially proactive is the first reason that may be new to you.
I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.
Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I can't even feel them. So every time worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took me three good weeks to really feel them.
Then I can now handle the big amounts of weight right after I have reached the tripping point in the development of my muscle. The mind is in that way too.
You need to push yourself harder everyday in accordance to the level of your skills. Because developing a new neuro-pathways will take time.
The second reason that can cause a feeling of social fatigue is that when you think that there is too much to do or learn when meeting women.
Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from "fatigue."
Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and depression. It's somewhat saying "ugh, I've had enough of this too much. I'm giving up"
I have suffered from this feeling before when I was taking notes of a lot of theories. And as I looked what I've write, I see that I am just looking at the complicated thing just like a complex physics equation.
Doing ALL of this stuff just to had a quality women in my life was so discouraging to think.
The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn't helpful to pick-up.
99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner "stuff."
But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win her or at least know if the women likes him too.
As what we have seen and heard in the media, from our parents and friends - generally it lets us know that man's role is to IMPRESS the woman and in return a woman will sleep with you.
That's Silly!
I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a fool while she giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.
Ok, enough for that protest... my point here is that so many guys are being screwed when it comes to the control of their dating game.
But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction.
Once you get to highest level of your interaction with women, you will truly be attractive to them. You just need to be at your best both physically and emotionally.
A MAN AT HIS BEST. |
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The One-Night Stand of the Pick-Up Artist |
10th June 2008, 09:04 |
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Let's talk about One Night Stands.
Before I don't really know how to do the one night stands,
and I started to understand how easy it is to apply after I
have used a couple of solid pickups.
Looking back, I realize now that those initial successes
were the start of a major "bad belief overhaul."
I started to anticipate that women wants sex and wanting me.
I am having some confidence that I was that desirable and
attractive to women eventhough I know that I am far the one
considered as good-looking .
Wanting to sleep with more women is the main goal of the 75%
of my students.
While the others have the aim to find their someone special
but I don't think these aim are mutually exclusive.
Because if you are looking for a special girl, you have meet
a lot of women so that you determine and pick the best
choice.
It would be impossible to meet your someone special if you
don't socialize and meet with a bunch of good women.
One of the common phase that every good pickup artist goes
through when they gets started. Where he to learn to thinks
of new ways and behavior and then start to meet and sleep
with LOT OF WOMEN.
Like a kid that uses all his new powers just to have all
that he wants in the candy store.
There is a need of learning in order to dump out your old
way and start with a new reality - that I am desirable that
women can't resist to sleep with me.
So it's important that you have a few really fast, casual
sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on
forming new beliefs.
I'm referring to a same day lays or popularly known as "ONS"
One-Night Stand.
Now if you've never had a one night stand, or maybe got
lucky a couple of times when you were drunk, having a
one-night 'stands at-will' can seem just as out-of-reach as
having a great girlfriend.
But it's actually pretty easy, if you know what you are
doing.
But a lot of men are making a way that is too hard for
themselves, where they never be able to gain the initial
sensual experience that will lead them to feel like
"natural."
If you're going though with this newsletter, then you really
want to MASTER THE GAME aside from getting BETTER with
woman.
Mastery comes from within - it starts with a mindset, and
leads to external results, which then form NEW BELIEFS in
your mind.
Your new beliefs will become the foundation in building and
facing the new reality in your life, you will then naturally
attract many women without even thinking and doing fancy
lines and routines.
First of all, if you're going for a one-night stand, there's
one thing you need to know -- You won't always be able to
get the hottest girl in the venue to go home with you.
You can get a solid number from her, but its not a guarantee
that you can take her home because whether or not a woman is
open to going home with a guy, it varies widely in
particular night.
However, in any bar, club, or even a day-time situation,
there are LOTS of horny women who would be open to getting
down with you that same day or night. You just have to know
how to spot these women.
I look for a few things - first, I notice how they are
dressed, how much makeup they have on, etc. If they look
like they put a lot of work in to being pretty, it was for a
reason.
The reason is they want to be approached. Although it isn't
always true but is generally the case.
You will also know that a woman is seeking attention when
she is so loud, hyper and animated.
And the last thing that I look for, are women that are all
standing and scoping around the room with blank expressions.
Also those women that is looking around the room more often
than the other girls in their group.
They are basically putting themselves out there, waiting for
someone to approach them.
Just take these in mind, that when you approach you don't go
into full-steam running your clever routines and cocky frame
control stuff. You have to take it easy.
A simple "hey, you guys look great tonight. Special
occasion?" is enough. It's just have to be social, delicate
and showing that you are interested in meeting them.
To discuss openly that you want her in bed and looking to
take her home can put a woman into a a point to agree and
bang with you, implicitly. So try not to make it obvious
that it is your main purpose.
Instead you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss
heavily in our workshops.
This will be against a woman's "rules" and she'll definitely
be keeping distance from you. And you really need a logistic
information to know how you can get her back to your place.
The real key to all this is subtracting any overt sensual
intention, and not trying to pick her up.
You must have the willingness to control the situation and
knows how to enjoy while having the escalation in the right
way.
This is how it will works although it may sound that counter
intuitive.
You have to believe that women wants to have sex and a lot
of women in the place wants to have a fast getting laid
down.
Some won't, but some will, and that's why it's key that you
get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.
I know you don't what to invest a lot of your time to pick
the right girl and then just mess it up after a long
interaction. Or to spend your time to a wrong girl or worse.
It's not worth wasting your time for that. |
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A Subtle Fix for Your Success with Women |
5th March 2008, 07:37 |
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The are men that will never become great with women and worst is, a lot of them just won't get it.
Sounds crazy but its true.
Being not smart enough or somehow having defect is not the mere reason...
Truth is, it's a subconscious choice that they have made unknowingly.
So how can you make sure that you are not one of them?
Well I'm here to tell you how. What I am about to share with you is a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of their equation.
Let me tell you about Matt. He's good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another pickup company. But he still doesn't get the success he longs for; the truth is, he's not successful at all.
You might wonder why I didn't help him out.
There are a couple reasons why I don't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.
BUT, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.
The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.
As I said Matt's a good guy, but every time I had a conversation with him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our common friends have said the same thing to me about him.
We don't like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.
Matt always give this feeling of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but naturally he gives off a vibe telling that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.
Same as through when he's talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another side he has an awaiting intention.
Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they'll accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.
But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.
Being creepy will kill any chance of success you might have.
You now have an idea of what might be going wrong. So how do you fix it?
To start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome as much as you can. It's not about giving back money. It could be from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.
So start talking to women not only because you want to pick them up, but because you find women amazing, fun, interesting and wonderful.
Next you need to begin being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean directly telling a woman "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants." That's instantly will kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.
There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived. |
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