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How do you let a woman know that you are for real? Or how does she know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?
These questions have the same answer. “CREDIBILITY”.
Able to create credibility is one of the main components in sleeping with a girl quickly.
Also sexual tension is another component (which will be take up on the next newsletter).
And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)
To those guys that think they don't have enough value, 90% of the time, it's credibility they lack. In fact, these days most of everything used to create value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.
"Player vibe" is not actually a negative vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.
So let's go to the three levels of credibility.
1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction
Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.
Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.
Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.
A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->
We have to realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have your own social programming. We all do.
This is not really a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful.
Realize that although we understand a lot of a girls behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.
Men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many girls as possible while girls have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around with them and to raise children.
And this instinct is build by social programming.
Girls programming is her reality and their programming is literally her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand her world.
HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->
Let's say you are comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom.
And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.
In that kind of act I bet you would feel uncomfortable with him. You might even think he's crazy.
He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world".
I bet you wouldn't trust or give a compliance with a guy like that.
Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn't want connect with him.
This is how girls feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.
If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (and most girls do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.
Having the same perceptions with her will build your credibility dramatically
Think of the three levels in this way:
Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the a common things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to modify and alter her world.
These are best demonstrated in order.
And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of girl.
It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.
But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.
A good way of doing this is by anticipating the girls thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.
First thing you need to do to remember the things she said, and then repeating it after she's forgotten she's said anything.
From this you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it leads to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.
That's when you know you get this thing.
When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think a guys perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.
She thinks "He's just like me!"
This is really the easiest thing in the world but its a major piece that will improve your game immensely.
So use this wisely and don't mess it up with it.
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