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Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?
And how does it feel that despite of all the effort you're doing you're still not getting an inch closer to your goal?
If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ ON.
Honestly, going for a date can be quite frustrating.
You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.
You think everything is going great with a girl and she stops returning your calls.
Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have to do everything to move things forward.
In your approach, you have to have the courage.
At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to set a date.
Men are much higher than women when it comes to the standards of behavior.
(Don't get me started on that...let's just say women are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")
It can be pretty exhausting, especially if you're not "extroverted" by nature.
... I have often heard a complain about "extroversion fatigue" from a client of mine.
I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to struggle with it before.
Before I began to teach myself pickup, I would go out, and be mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.
I would take a break and rest!
I am working hard than I was in my full time job instead of having some fun and relax in those situation. Now you see how strange it is.
I would go home absolutely dead
... from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!
That things makes any sense???
As a whole, there is a general dating fatigue. Having a discouraging results, an emotional ups and downs with regards to the hard work and effort that I make just to have a girl to hang out with me or to sleep with me.
It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!
When I first got in this game, I literally had to force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)
But what can I say, I was passionate about learning all this stuff (and not to mention extremely eager for results after years of sexual frustration).
I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym.
I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.
If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.
There are three reasons for this.
Socially proactive is the first reason that may be new to you.
I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.
Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I can't even feel them. So every time worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took me three good weeks to really feel them.
Then I can now handle the big amounts of weight right after I have reached the tripping point in the development of my muscle. The mind is in that way too.
You need to push yourself harder everyday in accordance to the level of your skills. Because developing a new neuro-pathways will take time.
The second reason that can cause a feeling of social fatigue is that when you think that there is too much to do or learn when meeting women.
Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from "fatigue."
Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and depression. It's somewhat saying "ugh, I've had enough of this too much. I'm giving up"
I have suffered from this feeling before when I was taking notes of a lot of theories. And as I looked what I've write, I see that I am just looking at the complicated thing just like a complex physics equation.
Doing ALL of this stuff just to had a quality women in my life was so discouraging to think.
The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn't helpful to pick-up.
99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner "stuff."
But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win her or at least know if the women likes him too.
As what we have seen and heard in the media, from our parents and friends - generally it lets us know that man's role is to IMPRESS the woman and in return a woman will sleep with you.
That's Silly!
I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a fool while she giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.
Ok, enough for that protest... my point here is that so many guys are being screwed when it comes to the control of their dating game.
But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction.
Once you get to highest level of your interaction with women, you will truly be attractive to them. You just need to be at your best both physically and emotionally.
A MAN AT HIS BEST.
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